Fiancee Not Hip to Direct Communication with Future Inlaws

Dear Zuri:

My fiancee and I have been dating for a while and keep running into the same problem over and over again. My parents are phone people who expect regular phone contact with their children, which I am happy to give them and do give them.  But they have been disappointed and hurt by what they see as my fiancee’s unwillingness to maintain a direct relationship with them through regular phone calls, particularly my mother. In the past, at my request, my fiancee has made an effort to call my mother directly but the direct relationship becomes too much for my fiancee to handle and she cuts it off again. Right now my parents are going through a tough time and are upset she hasn’t called them directly to see how they are doing.

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Fun Ways to Spend a First Date

Memorable Date Ideas to Jumpstart Your Romance

From the hip twenty-something to the experienced dating diva, everyone’s always on the look out for fresh, fun ideas to spice up a first date.  Or, jazz up date night with your long term honey.  Check out my list of thoughtful ways to make your time together memorable and special:

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Are You in a Toxic Relationship?

It’s often difficult to see your own relationship health clearly when you are the star in your own drama. It may take a loving friend or family member to point out the imbalance and abuse that is going on. Abuse does not always just take the form of physical violence but can also surface in the form of verbal or emotional abuse through neglect, manipulation, control, bullying or even belittling type of behavior. If you’ve ever wondered if you are the victim of a toxic relationship, check out these warning signs.

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Signs that Say He’s Just Not into You; Recognize How to Spot Mr. Wrong so You Can Make Room for Mr. Right

Every woman has had her eye on or dated the type of guy I’m talking about here. You are never really sure where you stand with him or what his interest level really is. Call him Mr. Flake, Mr. Player, Mr. Self Absorbed or Mr. Afraid of Commitment. Whatever his romantic style, it’s just leaving you confused, frustrated and wondering what’s really going on in his mind. So, let’s spotlight the warning signs to look out for when a guy simply is not that into you or playing you.

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Advice Columnist Zuri Counsels a College Student on the Dating Life of the 21st Century

Dear Zuri:

I am a very confident, smart, and witty college girl. As I walk around my college campus I happen to pass this cute college guy all the time. No matter where I seem to go I happen to be in the same place as he is (which is quite rare on a campus with over 50,000 college students). It is often said that it is not right for girls to approach guys to initiate conversation because men thrive on the chase after a woman.

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