Fiancee Not Hip to Direct Communication with Future Inlaws

Dear Zuri:

My fiancee and I have been dating for a while and keep running into the same problem over and over again. My parents are phone people who expect regular phone contact with their children, which I am happy to give them and do give them.  But they have been disappointed and hurt by what they see as my fiancee’s unwillingness to maintain a direct relationship with them through regular phone calls, particularly my mother. In the past, at my request, my fiancee has made an effort to call my mother directly but the direct relationship becomes too much for my fiancee to handle and she cuts it off again. Right now my parents are going through a tough time and are upset she hasn’t called them directly to see how they are doing.

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