How Can I Maintain Lasting Relationships?

Dear Zuri:

Every 2-4 years or so, I manage to lose my entire circle of friends, and have to start over. Sometimes, as in the most recent case, they hurt me deeply and can’t be bothered (or actively refuse!) to apologize. While I can, and do, forgive them regardless, I lose all trust and faith in them or their professed friendship, and thus it ends. Other times, distance or being too busy just drifts us apart. This has been going on my entire life, with rare and precious exceptions, and I’m tired of the pattern. I find and make friends easily. I just can’t seem to keep them.

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Getting Out of the Drama Cycle and Healing the Heart for New Romantic Adventures

Dear Zuri:

My ex and I had a bad breakup. Until now we had not contacted each other for about 11 months, though we did bump into each other during March as we were in the same college. So I would like to know if she will come back to renew the friendship and if there is also a possibility to reunite in the future. She is already in another relationship but still I can’t seem to let go of her. Thanks…

IC 6/84 and CC 1/85

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If You Love Someone, Do You Risk Setting Them Free?

Dear Zuri:

My year and a half relationship with my girlfriend just ended about 2 months ago and deep down I still do have feelings for her. She has told me the same but I’m very skeptical on us getting back together. I never was in love with a girl more than I was with her and we had even talked about marriage and kids. But unfortunately, I guess we just drifted apart the last few months and she started has new group of friends now that I would have never pictured her hanging out with in the first place. I believe she is talking with someone else now too.

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Can a Mercury Retrograde in Libra Signal the End of a Relationship Break in a Boyfriend’s Favor?

Dear Zuri:

My girlfriend wants to take a break. She says she still loves me but she says things have changed. She seems to just have a lot going on and I’m worried this will be the end of us. What can I expect?

CM 4/88

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Cutting Through the Illusions of an Affair with a Drug Addict

Dear Zuri:

S and I were involved in an affair that has lasted over three years. Although we resisted the attraction for a long time, it happened. His marriage with his wife has been in trouble long before I came on the scene. His wife found out about us just over two years ago and has gone back and forth between taking him back and ending it.

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