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Archive for July 2008
Tuesday, July 15th, 2008
Dear Zuri:
I am at a real crossroads at a tricky time in my life. My husband left last July, I will be made redundant this July, my kids are all teenagers and about to fly, and my mother is seriously ill in the U.S. I would appreciate some advice on how to move forward and turn it all into a golden opportunity. Many, many thanks!
CW 8/59
Hi C!
With upheaval and chaos, comes a spiritual cleansing and the Universe creating windows of opportunity where doors recently appeared closed. I am sensing that there is a draw for you to be there for your mom to help her out and at the same time make a fresh start. Your tarot cards confirmed that a relocation to the United States could provide new possibilities to create a successful, prospering career and a new life for yourself.
Although it may feel like your life got turned upside down with your husband leaving, your mother falling ill and the children coming of age and able to fly, your whole life is about to change and you will have total autonomy and freedom. There is a strong chain of karmic events in place that are creating a new beginning. Faith and the knowing that you are divinely protected in your decisions will help you realize that you cannot go in the wrong direction and will make the right choice. Spiritually, you just need to be prepared so that you will be ready when the Universe presents the sign that it’s time to take that giant leap. And, with the move overseas is the gift of a new relationship. A new man enters your life that will also help you get your footing again.
During the transition time before you meet him, you will need to do some internal work to close the door on your ex for good and not have the disappointments of your past affect your future relationships. In order to move forward, you must release the past and forgive the people in it, purge your subconscious of any self limiting thoughts that are blocking your progress and give yourself permission to allow the good things into your life through the expression of gratitude for what you do have. Once you have done this, surrender any attachments to the outcome and affirm that everything is working out for your highest good. The golden opportunity to becoming more independent, in control of your life and where you want to see it go is on its way with Universal timing. Good luck!
Blessings,
Zuri
Tuesday, July 15th, 2008
Dear Zuri:
After 28 roller coaster years I’ve decided to leave my wife. It’s been tough the last few weeks letting her know how I feel. She is not in the same place I am. I want to hurt her as little as possible so I’ve tried to work things out slowly and honestly. But it’s been tough. I’ve also tried thinking outside of the box….interesting stuff, but nothing has got me out of the house even though we are not sleeping together. Help me out with some ideas on how to make it happen. Thanks.
DT 8/56
Hi D!
The past pattern of behaviors that hurt and strained your marriage have led to you slowly withdrawing emotionally and your heart no longer feels invested in giving this partnership any more energy. There is no easy or quick way to tell someone it’s over and it’s especially difficult when you have close to thirty years invested in a marriage. If you feel you need support to make the transition out of the marriage, then I would recommend getting into counseling, either individually or together. A relationship therapist specializing in marriage or couples issues can help you work through this and make sure that there are no underlying problems that can be resolved, leading to a repair of the marriage. However, if even after counseling things remain fragmented and it’s discovered that the relationship has gone past the point of no return, then the trained professional can help you communicate firmly with your wife about the next steps in the dissolution of your marriage. Perhaps a trial separation will be what is needed for you to create some distance and figure out where you want to go from here. However I am sensing psychically that there are also financial reasons that are causing you to stall on moving out. So, a lot of things need to be sorted out before you can begin a new life for yourself.
Your reasons for being together in a marriage have been fulfilled karmically and at this point, your spirit guides are sending a message that you are at a crossroads and must make a proactive decision. Only you can decide when it’s time to leave a relationship that no longer makes you happy. If you no longer love her and don’t want to be with her then delaying the unavoidable will not lessen the pain for everyone involved. If you are ready to begin a new chapter in your life and seek out new relationships, you just have to be willing to take that leap into the unknown by ending your current relationship, file for divorce and then be truly open to new possibilities. Allowing fear of divorce or the guilt of hurting someone else in the process is no way to live because you are denying your own happiness. As humans, we are all born with the right to find peace, harmony and happiness for ourselves. And the only way you are going to achieve the life you desire is by mustering up the courage to pursue your passion and getting out of a relationship that is going nowhere. Just make sure that when you do move forward with the decision to sever the marital ties, do so with compassion, patience and grace, while maintaining positive relationships with all children created from your union.
Wishing you much strength, love and peace in this difficult decision.
Blessings,
Zuri
Thursday, July 3rd, 2008
Dear Zuri:
I met my ex in an online game in July of last year and we never really spoke to one another until a few months later when he asked me a question about stuff pertaining to the occult, which is a subject we’re both interested in. As the days and weeks passed we grew closer and fell in love. For about 6 months we couldn’t get enough of each other, seeing each other on msn and webcam whenever we could get a chance, staying up till the early hours of the morning talking. Soon after he became distant and told me that he needed his space. I told him that I’d back off for a little while but he didn’t want me to. We were planning on meeting up in May this year but about three weeks before the time he broke up with me saying that the feelings that were once there for me had gone. We have mutual friends in common who had planned a trip to Europe this summer and who had asked me to go along. But he said he’d check with my ex first if it was okay. The ex said it was fine. My question is since I still have deep seated feelings for my ex cause I really loved him, still do, how should I act when I’m around him? I don’t want to come across as being desperate and wanting to get back together (even though I do).
AS 8/77 and TR 2/84
Hi A!
As I read your tarot cards, I felt two distinct directions this can end up going in. Either he cancels and does not even go, saying something “came up” at the last moment or he does go and is cold and distant from thestart. Because I keep sensing there will definitely be a change in plans and that you are waiting on something that just isn’t going to happen – the reconciliation. Even if your ex does go, his attention will be on himself and the trip and you’d be too busy worrying about everything he says/does. Putting all of your focus and energy on his feelings and movements would negatively affect your ability to have a good time. Not to mention the prolonged heart break you’d experience because you’d be delaying the healing process and building up false hopes and dreams. So if you are only going on the trip to be near him then you should cancel. If you are going for other reasons it’s better if he isn’t invited along if that was how this originally came to be. Once a guy loses interest – it’s usually best to let him go and not wait around for him to give you the attention you deserve.
You need to be careful in investing your emotions in the future in any internet relationship because it’s easy to get wrapped up in fantasy and build up feelings that may not hold up once you meet in person. This guy is not worth mooning over. He’s imaginary. He enjoyed the distraction of giving his time to a fantasy when it suited him but once there was the threat of it becoming real life and he had to really commit he bailed. You gave too much – he had all he needed right there and then. My advice to you is to cancel the trip or go on the trip with just the friends and not the ex. If he wants to go then he can go on his own or on a future trip with just the mutual friends. Psychically, I feel he wasn’t really looking to have a real life relationship off the web and that’s why he pulled a 180.
Not all internet relationships turn out this way but it’s important to emphasize that in order to protect yourself both emotionally and physically, you need to learn to date intelligently. That means not investing all of your time chatting on the web. Give yourself just a few weeks of getting to know someone online before making plans to meet in person. If possible, try to meet men that live in your area so you can see them more often. And, during that internet chat time, limit your correspondences to only an hour or two a day. Give them something to look forward to. You don’t want to be too available from the get go. Usually, the men who just want a fantasy life on the internet will not move the relationship offline because he may even be married or have a girlfriend so it’s not smart to commit to a stranger on the web. By emphasizing boundaries, you’ll only have spent a few weeks instead of 6 months of your time on him. The more time you allow to pass without meeting, the more emotionally invested you become and you develop a higher risk of getting hurt. And no one wants that, especially when anyone can create a persona and become anything they’d like on the web. Take this as a lesson to not develop romantic feelings or an emotional attachment before you meet. Keep it as a friendship online and see where it can lead only once you’ve met offline.
Blessings,
Zuri
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