When a Marriage is Over: He Has Emotionally Checked Out of the Relationship but Physically Still Lives Under the Same Roof

Dear Zuri:

After 28 roller coaster years I’ve decided to leave my wife. It’s been tough the last few weeks letting her know how I feel. She is not in the same place I am. I want to hurt her as little as possible so I’ve tried to work things out slowly and honestly. But it’s been tough. I’ve also tried thinking outside of the box….interesting stuff, but nothing has got me out of the house even though we are not sleeping together. Help me out with some ideas on how to make it happen. Thanks.

DT 8/56

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The Emotional Risk of Internet Romance

Dear Zuri:

I met my ex in an online game in July of last year and we never really spoke to one another until a few months later when he asked me a question about stuff pertaining to the occult, which is a subject we’re both interested in. As the days and weeks passed we grew closer and fell in love. For about 6 months we couldn’t get enough of each other, seeing each other on msn and webcam whenever we could get a chance, staying up till the early hours of the morning talking. Soon after he became distant and told me that he needed his space.

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Should I Hold onto the Ex or Let Him Go?

Dear Zuri:

I don’t know what to do! I have never been so depressed with my life on a male subject, ever! Me and M started seeing each other Christmas just gone. Everything was fine at first until he broke it to me that he was going away for 2 weeks with 15 of his single rugby friends. I don’t know, but my world felt like it had ended. As he would be the only attached person on holiday I felt like his mates (who I don’t trust 1 bit!) would be trying to push him in to things.

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Leaving Skidmarks on Your Way Out of a Relationship

Breaking up is never easy and can feel like a part of you has died. You may hear your songs playing on the radio, hold onto a gift they once gave you or keep their pictures lying around your room as a constant reminder of their emotional presence in your life, even if physically they have left the building days, weeks or months ago. No one needs to tell you how difficult it is to stop thinking about them and as the days multiply, you’ll find yourself wondering if you’ll ever be able to get over them and love someone else with as much intensity as you felt for the ex. I’m here to tell you that you will. Healing occurs from the inside out. With my guide to moving on from your ex, you’ll get through the detox process necessary to heal and chart your course to smooth sailing on the deep waters of your love life again.

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